Entitlement... Who does it hurt? Are you helping or hurting?

Who's in charge?

Remember the terrible two's, Think of the terrible twenties. Does your child have entitlement issues. How can you help

So most parents experience the feeling of love inside for their children. It starts in the womb. We want them to have the best, be the best. Every day before they come we anticipate their arrival. Decorate their nursery line everything up. Then here they are, they cry and we do what ever it takes to make them happy. We buy them the coolest toys. If they come home from school with a sad face because Johnny has this, we move heaven and earth to give it to them.. We have began to serve our children in such a way, if they don't like the food we cook we fix them something special.

Lets think back.. Hum say two years old visualize your child on the ground throwing a fit. What do you do? This moment could make it or break it! What did you do? Let just say that you bought him / her the candy. You didn't wanna make a scene and it was just candy, right? Well I promise that soon enough it wont be candy. It will be the next big thing and you will give and give. It will never be enough. Before you know it you, you will have a big problem. You are setting yourself up for a lifetime partner, your child. When they are grown they will hang around, If they do leave and enter into another dysfunctional relationship they will expect someone to take care of them. When that's done guess what mom I'm home. So how long before that's over.... sometimes never. Here is an instance They do get a job they do little or a lot of work however they never feel they are treated fairly. They wan't more pay or they always got a reason why they should have more.

OK new flash America is the most child serving nation in the world. We give our kids everything and don't ask them for nothing. You don't think so well try calling the new I phone you just bought them. 15 minutes after they leave Did they answer? Some will some won't but here the real question. Why does your child have a 700.00 phone. LOL. I am not saying all this to blame everything on you.. However this is a learned behavior. It was tried and worked and you were the culprit. You have helped it along and you are enabling.. Whether they are 10 or 30 something has to be done.

Let me be a little more specific. I am not saying your child shouldn't have nice things. I am saying they must experience real consequences and must feel what it is like to work and earn something. So what can you do now. Well it's never to late to stop enabling them. If they are over 18 STOP! Time to grow up you need to tell them you won't do it anymore and stop.Tell them you can take them to work. They pay you Gas, and they save for a Car. Give them a time limit 6 months.

If they are young have them work for it give them a savings. There are all types of things they can do. This year my ten year old had two businesses one walking dogs, one raking leaves. Needless to say neither did very well but my heart brightened at the idea that she was willing to work hard to pay for half her I pod. So begin any where what ever will work for you. Paper boy, dog walker. Please don't have wake up at twenty and realize that the world won't hand them anything. The idea that you love them and will cause the rest of their life to be misinterpreted is saddening. Save yourself and them. Because that is who get's hurt.